I'm thinking about whether to go on Facebook.Well I'm in the socially embarrassing but advantageous position of not having a facebok page..Advantageous because lots of people are using it and so there's a history which I can discuss with people I know and value.A friend of mine was saying to my partner that facebook is a waste of time,full of superficial drivel.My son really likes it,although an aquaintance said his one line comments drove him nuts made him 'unfriend' him. A big question for me is, where I am I going to take time from for this new cool thing?As each new gizmo has arrived,we have seen a corresponding decrease in the time we spend together.The time dads spend with family is abysmal. I did hear it has increased slightly in recent years though,up to a wopping average of something like 10 minutes a day.My kids say well what are we going to say anyway,its boring! (talking with parents) I say its not that we are going to have some riveting conversation or play an exciting game or anything neccessarily,but its just that we can be around to interract.The converse is true for computer conversations-I dont hear the conversations,unlike the ones that happen offline here.We used to be a party to the conversations of our community and family-now we are not.That's the thing that has been disturbing me;which I couldn't name for ages.You dont know who is there.The community isnt listening.Its secret. I don't want every conversation to be public-but once apon a time you knew what was going on-not so now. Also the person on the computer isnt in the room.I mean they are in body,but they aren't here.That's a loss.We don't need any more losses in the home.We need increases in time alone,time without stimulus,time to talk,to listen I'm about to be labelled "old" and written off from comment by my kids.But I'll never be written off as I have a sense of the timeless and the valuable that will have its way.
Its obviously a cool tool.For keeping in contact when you are away from friends colleagues or family.For me as an artist and a poet it could let people know what' on, it could direct them to this blog,to my website etc
But lets not overrate Facebook.People have been talking for a long time.News has always travelled fast.Web media or not.Anyway,to finish, I wrote a poem about facebook a few months back which I'll share with you now.Kind of a modern take on unrequited love.I think it should be a song- I keep hearing steel guitar and country melodies accompanying it.........
One thousand two hundred friends
One thousand two hundred friends and I feel lonely
Even though I have eyes for you only
One thousand two hundred friends and I feel lonely
You just don’t seem to want to know me
Ive twittered and you don’t tweet back
Ive texted chatted tried to hack
Made posts that really mattered
Ive networked myself to the bone
And you. you wont even phone
Cause I’ve got One thousand two hundred friends and I’m still lonely
All the while with eyes for you only
One thousand two hundred friends and I feel lonely
You just don’t seem to want to know me
My Eyes are tired from googling darling
Hoping you will appear on my search engine
My blackberry is out of juice
Called the help desk for a truce
Ive upgraded my peripherals twice
Made my profile nice
But you don’t even want to know me
Cause I’ve got One thousand two hundred friends and I’m still lonely
All the while with eyes for you only
One thousand two hundred friends and I feel lonely
You just don’t seem to want to know me
Ive seen you on trade me
I’m ready to buy now baby
But youre bidding me farewell
My watchlist is saying sell
And I’ve got one thousand two hundred friends and I’m still lonely